For as long as I have dealt with narcissists, combined with times that I mimicked their behavior, I wondered what makes them that way?

For me, I didn’t know any better, and chances are had been absorbing their behavior without realizing it was anything negative. This is primarily true through various homes, extending to the influence of people outside of it.

But for me to realize any of that, it took an impactful loss to even start getting on the path of being better. The type of loss that no longer feels like there was anything to lose, because much was gained since then. Plus, it’s easier to see that time as the first step of waking up to your own toxicity, as well as others.  

Will the same apply to other narcissists?

What will they have to lose for them to reflect on their mistakes, acts of deception, anything to make sure they don’t leave behind more victims of their cruelty?

Don’t waste your energy on confronting them about it either. The defense of their acts will try to match the love you have for yourself for not dealing with their class of people anymore.

Whether it’s the loss of one person, or everything that they received through their behavior, it is something worth questioning, but shouldn’t be anything to dwell too hard on.

It’s already bad enough that a narcissist will want you to think about them more than yourself. But no doubt they will hate that you see, and especially speak about them in the negative light that they comfortably bask in.