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I once saw a social media post that pointed out how people will avoid you when you talk about toxic behaviors, all while not bringing up names. Given that yesterday is the three-month anniversary of this blog doing exactly that, I couldn’t agree more.

This goes even deeper when you consider any comments you leave on public posts, specifically with your name and profile out in the open. There’s no escaping judgment from there, and it can even lead to mutuals replying to your comments in support, additions, or healthy counterpoints.

Those other ones are always watching. Ones that choose their times to comment wisely on anything else, or feel they have a shot at taking you out of character. So-called friends who are mad that you’re not the quiet, gullible link-up they keep around as entertainment. They know who they are, and what they did to you. Even if you don’t know it all, you know enough to speak your truth without claims of being slanderous. Others would agree that nothing upsets them more than that.

It can even lead to those that won’t let go of the mess you once caused. They can see you’ve made a change, but will still remind you of the time you did whatever, disregarding your distance from the old, while masking the faults of their own past.

The path of healing from drama and trauma is sold like it isn’t for everyone, which is a lie. No good can come from not acknowledging your part in it, and we’d do a lot better as a society to stop passing it around, as if this is the meaning of life.

If you’ve also hurt others in ways that you now speak out against, keep going. We need more people like you, and less like the ones that only want to watch you fail, while it only masks how they failed you.