Not everything in the family structure has been terrible.

No, seriously.

Some of the things I’ve picked up from youth onward was a passion for media that’s outside of our intended demographic, either subtly or forced.

No matter what the media was, I paid attention to what made me feel good. It’s become common ground with all of us. Depending on who I’m talking to, some areas hold more interest than others.

But then comes the outside world. What a trip that can be to find like-minded fans of your favorite things. On one hand, you’re planning to watch niche shows and movies together, yelling at each other during video games, and more.

But it can also lead to culture clashes, gossiping, ridicule, offensive labels and statements like “that’s for (insert race),” and the like.

Sad part is that this goes well into adulthood. Taking someone out of grade school, but not the “grade school” out of the person-type of deal.

But the vetting process is more than worth it.

Even when some people sharing your fandoms aren’t the greatest ones outside of that common ground, the ones that stick behind can be long-lasting. They might even become closer than your own family.

Some may even become more than friends. Short or long-term, that’s bound to happen.

No matter what, embrace your individuality. Don’t rush into it if you’re not comfortable with that speed.

Let it build for yourself.

Just be ready for it to be a beacon to those that feel alone in their feelings, the ones seeking genuine acceptance before they form their own.

You and they won’t feel so much like a negative framing of a “weirdo” anymore. The longer you stay in touch, continue getting along outside of mutual interest, the more you will have gained your tribe. Your “found family.”

And if your heart is set that way, your person, and more.

D.F.