A close friend and I were talking recently, and I asked them if they’d like to see my newest resume. She stated in her own way that it could be sent, but wasn’t in the right mindset to look at it today. Not only did I state that I wished more people could accept answers like that, but she replied that she wished more people felt comfortable enough to say so.

“We both preaching [right now],” I replied.

It’s true though. Too many want to make requests and suggestions without any pushback. As if they’re only wired to hear “yes” in any form, and any version of “no” must be challenged or questioned.

And whey they ask why you feel a certain way, it’s done as if giving them a detailed, even passionate reason to consider your point will sit with them. Only to have them bring it back up months later to spite you, especially in front of their friends to put you on display.

This is part of a long line of reasons many of us are speaking out on toxicity and its amazing friends to anyone that can relate, or add to it. It’s tiring to expect the toxic ones to change, even when they’re presented with your case(s) against them.

But as I’ve relearned a few weeks ago as of this posting, when their issues are presented, you are resented.

A “how dare you tell the truth about me” kind of mentality.

If you’re someone that feels as if your voice only means something to the healed and healing, you’re not alone. Cliché as that statement is, it’s one of the reason those of us are still doing this, regardless if it’s for profit or not (at least for now).

It’s better than feeling alone in the presence of people that you wish you could trust with your secrets, your pain, your overall life.

People that will take advantage of your worries to favor their ego over your feelings.

People that claim to love you when they do that, instead.

No matter who they are to you, love the people that give you what the others lack in.

Make sure you love yourself at the same time.

D.F.