(Edited 10/17/2023)

To quote the last entry, “the narcissist’s “wins” are honored by inner fragile trophies waiting to be replaced. The healing/healed person’s wins are sturdy and illuminate. “

This almost made the post branch off into a whole different topic, how your healing can be compared to a lighthouse. We all know their purpose when it comes to boats and such. In here, it takes other forms.

I look back to where I would unknowingly attract genuine people that were around for, as the classic saying goes, “a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” A few stayed, even when my light flickered, dimmed, or just shut off.

There were also ones that were attracted to my miseducation and naïve mind. Being innocent enough to not realize the people seeking safe harbor with me, were running me for my lightbulbs that were hard to come by as it was.

I don’t think that pull-in of either types of people goes away. The awareness of how they comfort or alert your senses can determine how close you want to be with them, or how quickly you’ll avoid them.

A better comparison would be towards computers, and the more tech savvy you are about them, the faster you can guess where that can go now. I’ll stick with this theme for the time being.

It’s okay to still feel uncomfortable about letting the wrong people into your beliefs and such. You didn’t know what they would bring to you, but you know what not to accept if anyone like them decides to dock with you moving forward. Those are the “reason, season” people, after all.

Keep that light on. You never know who can come in and be that lifetime surprise you’ve been loudly or quietly been waiting for.

And yes, many great ones have come for, and stayed with me.

D.F.