So I’ve had to sit and wonder, “have I learned anything in all of this?”

I’d like to think I have, while still open to the fact that there’s still plenty to learn.

I’ve been able to communicate a lot better while in-person when it comes to talking about past and present emotions. It’s led to great talks with people that can relate to doing that for themselves.

I’m able to spot and keep distance from people that reflect the things I didn’t speak up about back when they were fresh. I try not to kick myself for that, alone, because that would devalue what I’ve accomplished.

I’m seeing the sociopathic and narcissistic traits in real time rather than in hindsight. Whatever isn’t caught, is often recorded. Even if not, it’s always remembered. And what’s remembered deserves to be spoken.

I’ve relearned not to rush my heart towards people that I don’t know in full. Platonic connections deserve even more care towards how you see them, and express your admiration, if not attraction that may or may not lead to more.

I’ve also relearned how to not get hard on me for not doing things on a routine schedule. Some days you don’t have the energy to maintain progress, but the history of that progress is enough to keep going when I’m ready.

This is a small list of things I could speak on, but what are some things you’ve learned about yourself in the past year? Are you journaling privately or publicly, if at all?

And as a close friend once asked me recently, do you feel that they’ll benefit you for the rest of your life?

My answer to the last one is yes.

I hope the same for you.

D.F.