(Note: If you’re following the ABC’s of Being a POS series, it will return on September 9th)

For friends, family, romantic partners, all relationship types. What makes someone that has hurt you repeatedly in the past become someone you miss in your life?

I’m sure the easy answer is being familiar with that kind of connection and the false idea of stability that it may have given a person. Even when the evidence is either in the open or deeply remembered, that “comfort” remains.

As someone who has experienced this feeling, it’s become easier to see in others after facing my own.

The big difference is that in seeing it happening for years on the outside of them, they may never be in a place to believe in better for themselves.

Of course, there can be legal, familial, or even spiritual complications that can keep people emotionally tied to one another. Or at least that’s how one, the other, or both will excuse their fragile ties.

Let’s also consider that these people will want to know what they can about other people’s relationships. Whether it’s to gossip with others, or inject insecurities about their own status onto you, their energy should be banned.

Sooner or later, if ever, they will learn how to manage their emotions. Separating the good and bad without a second thought. What they think they’ll miss is nothing compared to what they will find without them.

– Kingston Priest