I was set to write an entirely new post to close out the year, until I found this list of things I learned in the then-four years of the healing journey.

It makes sense to share it now. Knowing me, I may still write that post, but seniority rules, and all.

1: Love is best when it’s unconditional

2: Never compromise for other’s comforts.

3: You’re not a speed bag for anyone’s insecurities.

4: Don’t treat people like a speed bag for your insecurities, either.

5: No matter who leaves who, grow so much that one’s return is met with peace.

6: Healing can hurt, but not as much as stagnation in a painful place.

7: Progress in silence but give exclusive access to the trusted.

8: Research trauma bonds. When you find yours, be better than their sources.

9:  Whatever you call that voice of reason in you, listen carefully.

10: Hold yourself accountable to any wrongs you’ve done.

11:  Make time to laugh, count blessings, and share your wisdom.

12: “You are most equipped to help the person you used to be.”  – Dr. Dharius Daniels

Kingston Priest