(Updated 11/28/2023)

It takes being in a recurring amount of pain with someone to realize why it hurts as bad as it can get. Specifically when they have close access to you and whatever free time you have, and they take that knowledge to have you serve them.

Sure you have your moments of sickness that make you unavailable to even yourself. They may honor that. But any other time that doesn’t involve physical health even to the point of hospitalization, you’re the one on-call.

But if you have a request for them that’s priceless, simple words that could benefit any emotional growth that can happen in them and for those close to them, it will remain in their “to do” pile, never to be touched.

They might even wait for a time to shame you for your beliefs towards people outside of the statement. More proof that their ego means more that your stability. Their need to keep the status quo towers your demands for change.

After any amount of time that you deal with this, you have the right to be done with them.

You don’t deserve to be near anyone that refuses to change their behavior when it’s (knowingly) hurting you consistently.

You don’t need to keep your phone on DND to primarily spite them.

You don’t have to waste words on them any longer that they choose to use against you, because they’re above being stood up against.

Do all that you can to create and hold your boundaries. Make them as subtle or as loud as your situation(s) can grant you. The things you want in your own life are on the other side of the invasive thoughts that those people inspire. You deserve better, even if they do not want to see that truth.

D.F.