As much as you wish to avoid it, you’re always reminded of the people you romantically gave your heart to. It could be by a song you made exclusive to your time together, a restaurant you two went to, or an activity that no one else wanted to do with you but that one, or several partners.

That’s why making new memories with people is key. Doesn’t always have to be a new lover. It can be with those platonic connections that can help you realize what you want in the next relationship, if you want one at all.

Ignore the people that will bring any of your exes up. They may still have a picture of you and your ex on their phone, or slyly talk about something funny they once did. Whatever their reasons for resurfacing them, let them live in a past you have outgrown.

If you want to be snarky, you can say that if they miss them so much, they can date them 🙂

If for some reason you still think of an ex, don’t beat yourself up about it. The reasons for breakups vary in strength, but sometimes one or both parties can still care for one another. Yet, they have their reasons to stay away and not just move on, but move forward.

It’s only then that the lessons learned from those periods will prove fruitful. Even more if you’re holding yourself accountable on any wrongs that were done to them. That way, the next “love of your life” can be called that without fear of being wrong again.

D.F.