(Updated 11/26/2023)

Have you even had your heart broken by someone with mutual romantic, even intimate interest, yet never gone past the “talking” stage? Or if you’ve gone a little further than that and still be left in the cold?

This can happen in platonic friendships, too, but understanding why can come from different areas.

You may have done something to alter their view of you, and they may not be in a place to tell you what you did wrong. They may even think you’re not in a place to hear you’re doing or have done wrong.

Or they’re the type of person who prefers to let silence be their mark of separation. It’s a choice that’s justified and effective. If they come back, it may or may not include why they left, and by that point, you may have outgrown a need for their presence.

Of course, you can’t rule out some being outright petty and off-putting. Discarding you for reasons that fuel an ego that clashes with any part of you. More if you’ve grown to be more emotionally stable, mature, and growing away from trauma you may have told them about in confidence.

You just can’t tell. If you’re not meant to know, so be it.

As a meme once stated, “if someone ghosts you, respect the dead and move on.” Chances are I’ve quoted this in my blog before, but it bears repeating right here.

And don’t be surprised if you cherish any memories you had with the long-gone people. Don’t let their absence haunt you into believing better memories won’t come with people meant to be around you.

You deserve to think better about yourself, and be around those that feel the same.

D.F