Sometimes you find something after you rest or quit looking for it. It’s as true for life-changing positive moments as it can be for an everyday object.

When you find it, it always happens at the right time. Like looking for something important before leaving for a meeting early.

You find it and leave later than expected, only to learn that the route you normally take was blocked because of construction, or a major accident.*

They also have a habit of finding you. Not just because you were bent on finding it, but because you took time to breathe. There were other things to grow on before that one thing popped up in sight. One thing being your overall health, not just the mental side.

For me, there have been many financial issues in the past few months, more than I’d like to remember. But pursuing better employment, among other things, required times to rest from searching for it. It wasn’t easy to sift through scams or read more rejections than proposals, but you push onward until you need to relax.

Then, you start up again. But not without looking back at all the growth gained in those down times.

It’s okay to scream, cry, and even safely hit something to air out your frustrations. As a close friend told me, “nothing is wrong with you.” We’re all working to evolve within a system designed to reward conformity, and scrutinize individuality.

You’re doing perfectly fine in your resting states, as you are in your hunts for comfort and stability.

Whether it’s an email about a job opportunity, an approval on your new home, or a good word from a beloved connection, it takes more than hard work to receive it. It takes time to appreciate the things you have and were given during the free time you give yourself, as well as what was unexpectedly given to you.

It’s kind of like the “watched pot never boils” line. Just make sure you’re in the room when it whistles for you to come and get it.

D.F.

*This has happened to me many times. Happened again the day before this entry, which partly inspired it.

(edited 12/15/2022)