“Love You.”

Nothing brings home declaring someone’s value over forced services by telling them that you love them, often after they’ve finished doing something for you.

Do your best to slide this phrase into the start or end of a request as well.

For greater effect, tell them this after you’ve turned their “no” into a “yes.” Because who has time to hear that answer?

You’re better than that, don’t take it as much as they take putting up with you!

Kingston Priest

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“Just Kidding!”

Taking a jab at someone you know in the name of humor can be fulfilling. But what if they’re in your presence and disapprove of it for any reason?

Hit them with this line or the variant “it’s just a joke” to remind them that your brand of humor is superior and deserves equal attention to your fragile ego.

This can also apply to jokes unrelated to them, even pop culture ones that have run their course, but you think it’s fine to share among people that you think won’t or shouldn’t call you out on it.

-Kingston Priest

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Insecurity

Protection is vital from outside of yourself as  well as within.

Those memories of being abused, lied to, and controlled for other’s needs can be cared for by people that had nothing to do with them.

You fear having any of that happening to you again, so set up everything you can around your marks so that nursing those past pains and mistakes becomes a routine for them.

It’s the closest they can get to mind reading with you, at the cost of them working to be as far away from you as possible. 

-Kingston Priest

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Hero Complex

It’s true that not all heroes wear capes.

Some wear the behaviors mentioned throughout this list high enough that they can never be pulled down.

Familial, social, or job titles act this way, too.

Often, it’s backed by the power of love bombing; an act of providing random or thoughtful gifts that play into one’s interests but play deeper into your hands.

If they reject your gifts, treat it as an insult to the mask you wear that’s supposed to lure them into believing that you’re altruistic.

That you’ve “changed” or capable of it. 

But you haven’t. Because why should you?

Bating them into believing this is the best way to keep your image intact. Even when the picture is visibly held up by masking tape.  

-Kingston Priest

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Gaslighting

They’re onto you!

The jig is up!

They’re letting you know about facts and theories about how you’ve done them wrong and how you’ve hurt them repeatedly, often backed with hard evidence.

Denying any of it happening is the best play here.

Throw in some spicy phrases like “you’re making this up,” you’re crazy,” and more!

Remember, they are the villains for exposing you. 

But it’s not the only way to fog their minds.

Subtle gestures like blaming them for even a physical mess that you made can be effective in questioning their reality.

Making them second guess their perspectives is key in protecting your self-absorbed peace in the long run.

-Kingston Priest

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Flying Monkeys

A certified POS can never go without allies.

These people will also buy into your deceptions and even shame the marks in your place.

Also known as minions, flying monkeys are designed to keep the veil of lies over others who have the right to speak their truth.

Depending on their position in a mark’s life, the flying monkey could not only be an auxiliary POS, but they can also be a primary one to someone else.

So, while it’s natural to want new ones for your egotistical supply, maintain the ones you have.

They are everything you want your marks to be.  Because to you, their feelings don’t matter either.

-Kingston Priest

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Entitlement

Think of this as the parent to Coddling.

Whether it’s in someone’s attention, finances, or a forced idea of love, their business must always be yours!

Like other topics, this can extend to family and non-relative connections.

No matter who they are, and the harder your marks fight it, the more aggressive you need to be.

Eventually you will win without any care about what and who you’ve lost behaving this way.

-Kingston Priest

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Devaluing

Make sure people’s feelings about personal progress, comforts, and boundaries are dismissed with sharp-witted counterpoints.

They are key to putting you back in the spotlight, or to your list of demands.

Inspire claims of delusion combined with acts of deception to stick the apathetic landing you’ve spent time perfecting.  

Phrases like “grow up,” “move on,” even a mix the two together, when necessary, can sell the dismissal even further in the right situation.

For seasoning, find moments to ask, “what possessed you to do that,” right after they make you aware of something happy or progressive in their life. Then you can hit them with an extra reminder that your viewpoint is paramount.

-Kingston Priest

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Coddling

It’s comforting to know that someone cares for you enough to take their free time to favor your needs.

But if they don’t, you’ll frequently contact them to remind them of it.

Declare it even in the middle of their own life, like calling them at their job for non-emergencies.

Do what you can to have their presence paper you, despite their discomfort around you.

Continuing this can be supported with “love bombing,” to ensure that there will be something to get out of treating your marks like pets.   

-Kingston Priest

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