(Edited 11/15/2023)

With a narcissist, victory is the only thing that matters. You may have stood your ground over an issue in a moment, but it sticks with them.

Hours, days, weeks, even months later, they will come back on you with something they know you can’t win against.

They will beat their chest in front of you as if you were being punished for defying them.

As if they ate.

How long does it take until they finally choke on their words?

Unfortunately, it’s not for us to decide when. Unless you want to get in trouble for it, then they’ll win even more for looking like the victim they are proud to be. Anything to make you look inferior to them.

Anything to keep the positive fragile image they’ve built with others intact.

If they don’t feel threatened by you, or anything that you can, yet should say, you are in a “safe space.”

But we know the truth.

If it was safe, there wouldn’t be any reason to have the outbursts that we have over what they’ve done. What we feel they could still do. Outbursts we’re afraid to tell our unconditional loved ones about, at the risk of scaring them.

That’s why it’s up to us to keep moving and regulate any residual emotions that were picked up from them throughout time.

In doing this, it can be like what they’ve done to us. Using our history, our entire being, as a weapon to win every fight they start.

Only this isn’t about narcissism. It’s about the emotional separation of the person we thought we should be for them, over the one we know we deserve to be.

Our awakening, our freedom, is the narcissist’s greatest enemy.

Let’s be that. Better yet, let’s be our own heroes.