There’s something special about discovering how much better you are away from those that may not take in your presence with care.

But it also matters that you’re not so reliant on their presence that you aim to get revenge in some childish manner. The kind that can be the opposite to any claim of healing from past behaviors.

When you’re used to frequent communication with people and it slows down or stops for known and unknown reasons, the choice of addressing it, or re-addressing it, can be circumstantial.

It can also be a time to say to yourself “what else can I do with that time?” “How can I distract myself from needing even the smallest validation of existence from them?”

This may be a chance to reconnect with passions that help you get through the day or weeks. Some developmental, artistic way to self-regulate and remind yourself that the world, or even better, someone else’s world does not revolve around you, and the other way around.  

I’ve spoken on this before, so I’m considering this being a reminder to others and myself that it’s inevitable that lives take that shift for a time, if not for good.

Yes, sometimes those shifts can be because of bad actions, but the other ones can be signs of needing to grow and heal (again) until it is time to reconnect.

What happens from that reconnection will set the course for any current or future relationship you’re in.

Kingston Priest