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The ABC’s of being a POS: Intro
(Edited 08/09/2024)
Note: This upcoming series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Life is full of a healthy balance of people that deserve hugs or suplexes.
Sometimes both.
There’s a long list of examples of these people in both the past and present, public or private figures, and all types of relationships.
No matter what, the world has its shares of people that deserve attention as much as the others need to be starved from it.
This is dedicated to the second half.
By now you’ve assumed that the POS in the title does NOT mean “point of sale.” It means the other thing.
The one that made you think of a person or people who could understand physical actions more than a sentence about their behavior.
And even though one word or phrase will sometimes be used for each letter, they are not limited to them.
Consider each one a gateway into others that, like the ones chosen here, are tied to each other, and will be mentioned and even repeated within most of them.
So, if you or someone you know is a POS, and you’re looking for how to increase your villain potential, you’ve come to the wrong place.
After all, what better way to talk about the tricks and tips in ways that match your actions towards your targets/marks?
No matter what, remember this quote as this journey begins:
“If it hurts you, it’s about you.”
-Kingston Priest
P.S. – It is understood that there are those with undiagnosed or misdiagnosed mental conditions which will have similar behaviors mentioned here. This is in no way meant to offend them, or their related parties. This project is dedicated to those who choose to behave certain ways that deserve to be spoken about.
First: Animosity
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Longing: Keeping Connection with Past Abusers
(Note: If you’re following the ABC’s of Being a POS series, it will return on September 9th)
For friends, family, romantic partners, all relationship types. What makes someone that has hurt you repeatedly in the past become someone you miss in your life?
I’m sure the easy answer is being familiar with that kind of connection and the false idea of stability that it may have given a person. Even when the evidence is either in the open or deeply remembered, that “comfort” remains.
As someone who has experienced this feeling, it’s become easier to see in others after facing my own.
The big difference is that in seeing it happening for years on the outside of them, they may never be in a place to believe in better for themselves.
Of course, there can be legal, familial, or even spiritual complications that can keep people emotionally tied to one another. Or at least that’s how one, the other, or both will excuse their fragile ties.
Let’s also consider that these people will want to know what they can about other people’s relationships. Whether it’s to gossip with others, or inject insecurities about their own status onto you, their energy should be banned.
Sooner or later, if ever, they will learn how to manage their emotions. Separating the good and bad without a second thought. What they think they’ll miss is nothing compared to what they will find without them.
– Kingston Priest
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“The ABCs…”: Part 12 [L]
“Love You.”
Nothing brings home declaring someone’s value over forced services by telling them that you love them, often after they’ve finished doing something for you.
Do your best to slide this phrase into the start or end of a request as well.
For greater effect, tell them this after you’ve turned their “no” into a “yes.” Because who has time to hear that answer?
You’re better than that, don’t take it as much as they take putting up with you!
Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…” Part 11 [K]
Kindness
It’s one thing to be kind to others without wanting anything in return.
Asking them to pay it forward would be the most a legitimate kind person would ask for.
But that’s not you, is it?
Kindness is easy to fake with the right energy. It even falls under being a tool of manipulation, which will be discussed soon.
It’s your chance to get into people’s minds, pockets, and futures so you won’t be without fuel for your needs as the best POS you can be.
– Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs of being a POS”: Part 10 of 26 [J]
“Just Kidding!”
Taking a jab at someone you know in the name of humor can be fulfilling. But what if they’re in your presence and disapprove of it for any reason?
Hit them with this line or the variant “it’s just a joke” to remind them that your brand of humor is superior and deserves equal attention to your fragile ego.
This can also apply to jokes unrelated to them, even pop culture ones that have run their course, but you think it’s fine to share among people that you think won’t or shouldn’t call you out on it.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…” Part 9 [I]
Insecurity
Protection is vital from outside of yourself as well as within.
Those memories of being abused, lied to, and controlled for other’s needs can be cared for by people that had nothing to do with them.
You fear having any of that happening to you again, so set up everything you can around your marks so that nursing those past pains and mistakes becomes a routine for them.
It’s the closest they can get to mind reading with you, at the cost of them working to be as far away from you as possible.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…” Part 8 [H]
Hero Complex
It’s true that not all heroes wear capes.
Some wear the behaviors mentioned throughout this list high enough that they can never be pulled down.
Familial, social, or job titles act this way, too.
Often, it’s backed by the power of love bombing; an act of providing random or thoughtful gifts that play into one’s interests but play deeper into your hands.
If they reject your gifts, treat it as an insult to the mask you wear that’s supposed to lure them into believing that you’re altruistic.
That you’ve “changed” or capable of it.
But you haven’t. Because why should you?
Bating them into believing this is the best way to keep your image intact. Even when the picture is visibly held up by masking tape.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please dial 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Love (Bonus Entry)
(Special note: This was written back on March 4th of 2024, and forgot about it until 08/19. The update will follow it in this same post.)
It’s one thing to say “I love you” to someone. It’s another to say “I trust you.”
I had the opportunity to say both in the romantic sense to someone recently. The feeling is mutual.
For that to happen, communication was important to each of us. Transparency and boundaries were established and respected for a long time.
Even in the periods when neither of us were in an emotional place to coexist, we grew for ourselves before seeing if we could grow with each other.
Circumstances to move forward are between us, but we’re in a better place to be ourselves. Removed from, but not entirely dismissing labels that mostly serve anyone outside of our circles.
Whatever becomes of this connection, I’m grateful for its debut and progression.
(And now, the update.)
As of July, we’ve become an official couple.It’s really the only thing that has changed outside of how and when we come together.
How it’s being handled speaks well to what privacy we’ve created, while sharing the existence of our union to those we trust.
I’ll write more about that another time, and make sure it’s not sitting in the drafts longer than needed 😉
For now, enjoy the new series I’ve created, running until October.
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“The ABCs…” Part 7 [G]
Gaslighting
They’re onto you!
The jig is up!
They’re letting you know about facts and theories about how you’ve done them wrong and how you’ve hurt them repeatedly, often backed with hard evidence.
Denying any of it happening is the best play here.
Throw in some spicy phrases like “you’re making this up,” you’re crazy,” and more!
Remember, they are the villains for exposing you.
But it’s not the only way to fog their minds.
Subtle gestures like blaming them for even a physical mess that you made can be effective in questioning their reality.
Making them second guess their perspectives is key in protecting your self-absorbed peace in the long run.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please dial 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…” Part 6 [F]
Flying Monkeys
A certified POS can never go without allies.
These people will also buy into your deceptions and even shame the marks in your place.
Also known as minions, flying monkeys are designed to keep the veil of lies over others who have the right to speak their truth.
Depending on their position in a mark’s life, the flying monkey could not only be an auxiliary POS, but they can also be a primary one to someone else.
So, while it’s natural to want new ones for your egotistical supply, maintain the ones you have.
They are everything you want your marks to be. Because to you, their feelings don’t matter either.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please dial 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs. of Being a POS”: Part 5 of 26 [E]
Entitlement
Think of this as the parent to Coddling.
Whether it’s in someone’s attention, finances, or a forced idea of love, their business must always be yours!
Like other topics, this can extend to family and non-relative connections.
No matter who they are, and the harder your marks fight it, the more aggressive you need to be.
Eventually you will win without any care about what and who you’ve lost behaving this way.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please dial 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Next: Flying Monkeys
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