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The ABC’s of being a POS: Intro
(Edited 08/09/2024)
Note: This upcoming series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Life is full of a healthy balance of people that deserve hugs or suplexes.
Sometimes both.
There’s a long list of examples of these people in both the past and present, public or private figures, and all types of relationships.
No matter what, the world has its shares of people that deserve attention as much as the others need to be starved from it.
This is dedicated to the second half.
By now you’ve assumed that the POS in the title does NOT mean “point of sale.” It means the other thing.
The one that made you think of a person or people who could understand physical actions more than a sentence about their behavior.
And even though one word or phrase will sometimes be used for each letter, they are not limited to them.
Consider each one a gateway into others that, like the ones chosen here, are tied to each other, and will be mentioned and even repeated within most of them.
So, if you or someone you know is a POS, and you’re looking for how to increase your villain potential, you’ve come to the wrong place.
After all, what better way to talk about the tricks and tips in ways that match your actions towards your targets/marks?
No matter what, remember this quote as this journey begins:
“If it hurts you, it’s about you.”
-Kingston Priest
P.S. – It is understood that there are those with undiagnosed or misdiagnosed mental conditions which will have similar behaviors mentioned here. This is in no way meant to offend them, or their related parties. This project is dedicated to those who choose to behave certain ways that deserve to be spoken about.
First: Animosity
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“The ABCs of Being a POS”: Part 20 [T]
“Tough!”
When you’re in the mood of taking something from a person, forcing them to do anything, and they make a case to why you shouldn’t, hit them with this phrase.
It’s a combination of multiple techniques on the list.
It’s a way to demand respect while disrespecting and devaluing them, with animosity towards them for defying your rule.
It’s also a sharp shutdown of any further conversation to reestablish the dominance that you’ve worked hard to maintain in your years being in control, while lacking self-control.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Scapegoating
Next: UltimatumThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Reorganizing
I have plenty of things that are figuratively or literally collecting dust. Thankfully I’ve made great strides in clearing stuff out, and I’ve adopted the method of doing bits of it at a time. Hours I’m working stopped being an excuse, fitness regiments are kind of worked into it. Screen time, ironically, is the big one to manage the most. But I could still reorganize properly in the areas of my room, alone, that deserve it. I’ll get to it for sure. The less physical clutter, the better clarity my mind will hopefully have.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 19 [S]
Scapegoating
Whenever you’re concerned about feeling the weight of your actions bringing you down, choose someone or a group of people to bear that burden on your behalf, and certainly against their wishes.
Scapegoating is when someone is used to absorbing your own mistakes and bad habits. You can artfully do this with multiple techniques on this list to take the edge off their defense or offense.
It’s a surprise move that will stun your marks enough to seemingly not challenge you later. If you’ve picked the right one, nothing can harm you.
But rest assured, there’s little to no such thing as the “right one.”
–Kingston Priest
Previous: Respect
Next: “Tough!”This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 18 [R]
Respect
Respect is earned with and through healthy people, but you’re built different.
What you provide, how you set the guilt trips and gaslights, and ending with the last word to your bragging and devaluing is why you demand acknowledgement from anyone that sees you as a bully or abuser.
Remember to keep them sedated for as long as you can!
And after all you’ve done for them, this is how they treat you!
Be the best POS possible by making them wish that your definition of respect should always be one-sided, because that’s all you can handle!
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Quiet
Next: ScapegoatingThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 17 [Q]
Quiet
Is the punching bag to your unhealed trauma and insecurities still not giving you the attention you deserve?
Try being quiet around them!
Do it long enough to leave them guessing if they’re the bad person for creating boundaries or excommunication.
Like much of this list, it’s more effective when you’re sharing a space with them.
The same way you feel safe talking them into believing your word is law, your silence can make them inspire care for you again. Even if it’s only to shut you up for a little while.
–Kingston Priest
Previous: Passive Aggression
Next: RespectThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 16 [P]
Passive Aggression
Up to this point, many of you have caught onto this one at the end of most entries.
If you’re not the target audience, you have nothing to worry about. But if you are, good for you!
This can come out in several ways tying it to previous entries of devaluing with a touch of manipulation.
The second one even more, as it’s making someone think you’re on their side enough to ignore the small cuts you’re giving their self-esteem.
Better for someone else to bleed about your treachery than to nurse your own ego with therapy, right?
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Over-exaggerate
Next: Quiet
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs of being a POS”: Part 15 of 26 [O]
Over-exaggerate
Say, that’s a nasty cough you’ve got there!
May be the wrong pipe while drinking, or your life is in severe danger if you sell it right.
If you let your marks think there’s something wrong with you enough to win their sympathies, pat yourself on the back!
But groan while you do it like you’re in pain.
The weaker you act, the stronger your grip on their attention.
Earn that acting award and let it outshine managing insecurity and more in the healthy way.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Nagging
Next: Passive Aggression
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 12 [N]
Nagging
We all know about children being capable of begging for attention by even destructive means.
Some grow of it, but not you, weary student!
Wear your marks down with the passion of said child when you want your needs met and watch them hide their disgust over your untamed repetition.
Add in the other lessons about gaslighting, manipulation, coddling, and more to seal in that chance to also declare love for their servitude.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Manipulation
Next: Over-exaggerateThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 12 [M]
Manipulation
People can often be like chess pieces, only here you can play with people’s minds to get what you want.
Attention, financial information, even relationship statuses, it takes a wordsmith to forge the right dialogue together to make your marks feel less than themselves.
Anything to make you feel better weaving through their boundaries.
This can be supported with hypotheticals; statements or questions that lean your marks into seeing things your way, even if your views are controversial.
Like with gaslighting, keep them so confused, that it’ll be too late to reverse the damage you’ve done, and the respect you’ll lose from them when they figure you out!
-Kingston Priest
Previous: “Love You.”
Next: NaggingThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Close Call: How I Almost Lost This Page
When I started my recent project, my plan was to use the week where there’d be a break in posting to link everything up to a certain point to the introduction of said project.
Technical scares caused the page to be, as it was put, “archived or suspended.” Thankfully someone replied to my request and fixed the error, which is why you’re reading this now.
And if they happen to be, too, thank you to Customer Service!
But in-between that period, a few thoughts were circling.
“Do I start all over?”
Starting over from experience is a real thing to believe in. Mental and emotional resets are what inspired all this to exist in the first place. It’ would have hurt, of course, but it could have been done.
“Did I lose over two years of work?”
Not entirely. Many of the posts are already saved offline. Helps that some of them were written offline before posting here, so that’s easy. There was still the sting of not having solid evidence of what I’ve done for myself for so long, even if under an alias.
“Should I host elsewhere if I can’t get it back?”
Considering that I finally purchased the domain name, that would have been a step. Not sure if it’d be a bad or good one, since I could have made a new page through the host, too. It still circles back to the first two questions, along with one more:
“Who am I doing this for?”
Me.
At least, at first it was that way. Something to air out what’s already been talked about or repeated through multiple therapists, even before greater inspirations to dig deeper and face myself over five years ago.
But even before blogging, I saw what I was doing for myself often helped others who trusted me with their inner fights, curiosities, and more.
I was fighting people’s demons easier because I was learning how to fight mine. Years later, I still am, and will continue to.
Which brings up a final point. If I had “lost everything” on here, the one thing I didn’t lose is the work I’ve done in me. It’s the type of work that builds and strengthens boundaries, and all kinds of relationships.
It’s also been inspirational for others to do it, too. Maybe not just the people I personally know, but the longer I do this, the more I’ll know for sure.
I promise that I’ll continue to change and heal alongside you all, too. No matter what format I present my thoughts on.
–Kingston Priest
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