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The ABC’s of being a POS: Intro
(Edited 08/09/2024)
Note: This upcoming series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Life is full of a healthy balance of people that deserve hugs or suplexes.
Sometimes both.
There’s a long list of examples of these people in both the past and present, public or private figures, and all types of relationships.
No matter what, the world has its shares of people that deserve attention as much as the others need to be starved from it.
This is dedicated to the second half.
By now you’ve assumed that the POS in the title does NOT mean “point of sale.” It means the other thing.
The one that made you think of a person or people who could understand physical actions more than a sentence about their behavior.
And even though one word or phrase will sometimes be used for each letter, they are not limited to them.
Consider each one a gateway into others that, like the ones chosen here, are tied to each other, and will be mentioned and even repeated within most of them.
So, if you or someone you know is a POS, and you’re looking for how to increase your villain potential, you’ve come to the wrong place.
After all, what better way to talk about the tricks and tips in ways that match your actions towards your targets/marks?
No matter what, remember this quote as this journey begins:
“If it hurts you, it’s about you.”
-Kingston Priest
P.S. – It is understood that there are those with undiagnosed or misdiagnosed mental conditions which will have similar behaviors mentioned here. This is in no way meant to offend them, or their related parties. This project is dedicated to those who choose to behave certain ways that deserve to be spoken about.
First: Animosity
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“The ABCs…”: Part 25 [Y]
“You Hungry?”
Nothing makes food taste better than offering it after you’ve run someone down spiritually and/or physically.
A form of, if not a spin-off to love bombing, it’s the perfect way to mask your inability to apologize for breaking someone’s trust in you.
Don’t be surprised if they refuse to eat with you in later years, if ever again. Their taste buds are one of the few things you haven’t bruised.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: “X”
Finale: Zero RegretsThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional. For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 24 [X]
“X”
This will be dedicated to “x” being defined as “unknown.”
Because the best thing about being a POS is making sure your marks never know what version of you to expect.
You can be quiet, fun, directive, trustworthy and more with the motive of control at your side.
Many, if not all of what’s mentioned before this point can help keep the mystery alive, while slowly leaking your internal misery.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: “What if I die?”
Next: “You Hungry?”This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 23 [W]
“What If I Die?”
Guilt trips come in all shapes and sizes, but if they ever had a leader in usage and effectiveness, it would be this one!
Like the “Love You” technique, any version of the phrase can be useful if your mortality is hung over their head.
It will play into their natural sympathies, but only if they do not see it coming.
If they do, refer to Manipulation and Ultimatum for reminders on how to reclaim your poorly made crown of superiority.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Victimhood
Next: “X”This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Past Master: Overcoming the Forgotten Mistakes
What the healing journey involves recognizing periods where are you were not a great person, the constant statements that healing is nonlinear holds true.
Last nigh, I was reminded of a point well over 10 years ago. I volunteered for a company which wanted to make an appearance at an indoor amusement park. I declined, but the day of the event where others went instead, I still made my way up there to say hi to those in my place.
I remembered their faces when they saw me. They likely we’re not pleased, but nothing verbal was said about it. But this was at a point where I only thought more about myself and only in later years that I mildly reflect on how that may have looked to them.
So yes, it was so long ago that the people involved may not even remember. Honestly, I only remember the name of one of the people there.
Perhaps the reason I do recall is to let it be part of the lessons I had to teach myself again, both later in life and leading up to now.
I can also consider it showing up at the right time where I can speak on this so openly in the way that is aligned with what I’ve begun to speak on for years now.
I also believe it’s also tied to how much I do not want people to feel any way that I could have imagined them feeling in a selfish act, or what they told me how and why I hurt them, only to be indifferent or reject their claim. Only to remember the countless times that has happened towards me, pointing out or venting frustrations with unapologetic people, hoping they would hear me out for once.
Crossing my fingers that they would change stunted the chance for me to sit with everything long enough to be better than all sides of those memories. But I needed changing myself. Not just in words, but in actions.
I have repeated many times before how past mistakes should be lessons and not anchors. While that is still true, something else recently inspired a remix to that.
Do not treat your past mistakes as anchors. Instead, let them be propellers towards a better direction. One that your future self is cheering you on loud enough that you can continue to follow their voice.
Surely there will be many other memories to feel that way towards. I will continue to do my best to follow that voice, as I have years ago to make sharing this and much more possible.
– Kingston Priest
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“The ABCs…”: Part 22 [V]
Victimhood
Anything that can be associated under the manipulation topic can relate to victimhood; the act of believing that the wrongs done to you justify how you treat others.
Processing your past and present hurts like this can turn into a routine.
One where you refuse to see things any other way. That other’s suffering is nothing compared to yours.
You might even think that they deserve to feel pain because you did and you “came out just fine!”
Did you? Of course you did! Ask the people around you and don’t be surprised if things get emotional.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Ultimatum
Next: “What if I die?”This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional. For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 21 [U]
Ultimatum
Sometimes your mark is firm in their ‘no” towards you.
Even guilt tripping, gaslighting, and other previous tools aren’t enough to wear them down.
No matter how long ago they gave it to you, you’ll find a way to get revenge by giving them an ultimatum.
Once you have it, seal it with a good old patronizing “I love you.”
Doesn’t matter if they forced themselves to say it back to keep the peace. Your POS status is guaranteed!
BONUS: Ulterior Motive
Never engage your marks without having a hidden agenda that feeds your selfishness.
Asking the right questions that lead to what you desire makes you like a cop interrogating a suspect.
One that will always be seen as guilty, when it’s too often the other way around.
But they can never know that.
Even if they do, it’s your duty to probe them with the things you refuse to control about yourself.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: “Tough!”
Next: VictimhoodThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs of Being a POS”: Part 20 [T]
“Tough!”
When you’re in the mood of taking something from a person, forcing them to do anything, and they make a case to why you shouldn’t, hit them with this phrase.
It’s a combination of multiple techniques on the list.
It’s a way to demand respect while disrespecting and devaluing them, with animosity towards them for defying your rule.
It’s also a sharp shutdown of any further conversation to reestablish the dominance that you’ve worked hard to maintain in your years being in control, while lacking self-control.
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Scapegoating
Next: UltimatumThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Reorganizing
I have plenty of things that are figuratively or literally collecting dust. Thankfully I’ve made great strides in clearing stuff out, and I’ve adopted the method of doing bits of it at a time. Hours I’m working stopped being an excuse, fitness regiments are kind of worked into it. Screen time, ironically, is the big one to manage the most. But I could still reorganize properly in the areas of my room, alone, that deserve it. I’ll get to it for sure. The less physical clutter, the better clarity my mind will hopefully have.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 19 [S]
Scapegoating
Whenever you’re concerned about feeling the weight of your actions bringing you down, choose someone or a group of people to bear that burden on your behalf, and certainly against their wishes.
Scapegoating is when someone is used to absorbing your own mistakes and bad habits. You can artfully do this with multiple techniques on this list to take the edge off their defense or offense.
It’s a surprise move that will stun your marks enough to seemingly not challenge you later. If you’ve picked the right one, nothing can harm you.
But rest assured, there’s little to no such thing as the “right one.”
–Kingston Priest
Previous: Respect
Next: “Tough!”This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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“The ABCs…”: Part 18 [R]
Respect
Respect is earned with and through healthy people, but you’re built different.
What you provide, how you set the guilt trips and gaslights, and ending with the last word to your bragging and devaluing is why you demand acknowledgement from anyone that sees you as a bully or abuser.
Remember to keep them sedated for as long as you can!
And after all you’ve done for them, this is how they treat you!
Be the best POS possible by making them wish that your definition of respect should always be one-sided, because that’s all you can handle!
-Kingston Priest
Previous: Quiet
Next: ScapegoatingThis series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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