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The ABC’s of being a POS: Intro
(Edited 08/09/2024)
Note: This upcoming series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Life is full of a healthy balance of people that deserve hugs or suplexes.
Sometimes both.
There’s a long list of examples of these people in both the past and present, public or private figures, and all types of relationships.
No matter what, the world has its shares of people that deserve attention as much as the others need to be starved from it.
This is dedicated to the second half.
By now you’ve assumed that the POS in the title does NOT mean “point of sale.” It means the other thing.
The one that made you think of a person or people who could understand physical actions more than a sentence about their behavior.
And even though one word or phrase will sometimes be used for each letter, they are not limited to them.
Consider each one a gateway into others that, like the ones chosen here, are tied to each other, and will be mentioned and even repeated within most of them.
So, if you or someone you know is a POS, and you’re looking for how to increase your villain potential, you’ve come to the wrong place.
After all, what better way to talk about the tricks and tips in ways that match your actions towards your targets/marks?
No matter what, remember this quote as this journey begins:
“If it hurts you, it’s about you.”
-Kingston Priest
P.S. – It is understood that there are those with undiagnosed or misdiagnosed mental conditions which will have similar behaviors mentioned here. This is in no way meant to offend them, or their related parties. This project is dedicated to those who choose to behave certain ways that deserve to be spoken about.
First: Animosity
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Back in Action: My Return to Writing
I did not expect to take as long of a break as I did before writing again. It was starting to be so long that I questioned if there was any reason to come back.
Not that I was without things to say, but I was heavily influenced by the world around me in a different way.
Civil unrest. Daily reminders that people are waking up happy to cause or support misery on a global stage. Feeling as if those who had the chance to stop it from getting as bad as it is have abandoned us, hoping they’re plotting against the mess in silence, if at all.
But even all of that is a reminder to control what I can.
Time management is a big control point, as I’m writing this on the first day of my new, slightly earlier shift. Same job as I wrote about a few times almost two years ago. Which is an accomplishment worth celebrating with much-needed time off I’ll be taking, soon.
I will do my best to get back into the groove of writing here, again. It will continue to be my way regulate all the confusion, sadness, disappointment, and rage that seeps in on personal, professional, and public topics.
It will also be my way to continue speaking about joy, success, and accountability. Because while it is important to check in on all feelings great and vile, it’s important to look for the glimmers. The same way Fred Rogers advised us to “look for the helpers.”
Glimmers count as helpers. They will be needed every day. Chances are, being back will serve as being one for someone else, not just myself.
Kingston Priest
P.S. – My “ABC…POS” video series is up and running. If you’re interesting in reading it, go here, as well.
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An Old, Yet Timeless List
I was set to write an entirely new post to close out the year, until I found this list of things I learned in the then-four years of the healing journey.
It makes sense to share it now. Knowing me, I may still write that post, but seniority rules, and all.
1: Love is best when it’s unconditional2: Never compromise for other’s comforts.
3: You’re not a speed bag for anyone’s insecurities.
4: Don’t treat people like a speed bag for your insecurities, either.
5: No matter who leaves who, grow so much that one’s return is met with peace.
6: Healing can hurt, but not as much as stagnation in a painful place.
7: Progress in silence but give exclusive access to the trusted.
8: Research trauma bonds. When you find yours, be better than their sources.
9: Whatever you call that voice of reason in you, listen carefully.
10: Hold yourself accountable to any wrongs you’ve done.
11: Make time to laugh, count blessings, and share your wisdom.
12: “You are most equipped to help the person you used to be.” – Dr. Dharius Daniels
Kingston Priest
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Now You See Me: Showing the Face Behind the Mask
I have been doing a lot of work since my last post. The majority of it involving myself turning the ABC series* into a set of short videos.
This time, with ME being on camera narrating the entire thing.
Some of you already know how I look. Others are still showing up even after stating in a previous post that I am Black. In hindsight, it mattered to say that when this entire blog began, but that’s something to explore another time.
Being on camera for the series speaks to a lot of other work I’ve done in the past and present. It helps to show there’s another person of the global majority willing to dive into mental health discussions in a different and artful way.
In no way is it going to be perfect. Doesn’t need to be.
As one content creator stated, “perfect is the enemy of good,” which lines up with another belief: “finished, not perfect.” It’s something that any artist can mirror match themselves with, like I have have in starting the blog, alone.
But I will be satisfied in its completion.
– Kingston Priest*The blog version of the series will be available on the pinned post to this page. Follow all the hyperlinks from there. Normally it’d be hyperlinked, but the AI mod has told me “don’t do that” the hard way once, already.
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The Unit: The Art of Standing Together
It’s been interesting to see how many divisions have come along in the last few weeks.
One reason falls to morality and a passion for human rights, both being backed with one’s life experiences and researching history.
Not many have done or will do the same, unless it is focused on finding material that supports their unpopular beliefs.
It is enough to step away from all of it.
It becomes a priority to limit exposure or avoid overstimulation from multiple sources no matter what side they are on. All because there are still matters that each of us must manage carefully every day.
And even with those controllable matters, we are all still built to wonder how they will be affected in the future. All sides that this applies to, no matter how threatening certain side’s views are, will have one question in common: “how will this affect the people I care for?”
But it goes back to wondering what matters more to a person. Are human rights more important than your bank account and ego? Is accountability a way or life or a “four letter word” to you?
Switching gears, is there also a way to find unity in a world built on keeping the masses separated?
In smaller spaces, yes. Massive ones can, as well, as we have and will continue to see.
But what side of that will you start or continue to be on?
The one that stands their ground devaluing the lives of others because you disagree with their right to live? Or the side that will do everything in their power to call it out and defend those rights by any means?
To paraphrase a line from Hamilton, history has its eyes on us. Not always with every individual name, but surely in collective action.
My side has been made clear enough in these last few years on here. As for you, to quote Black Sheep, “the choice is yours.”
Choose carefully.
Kingston Priest
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The World You Wanted: Post-Election Thoughts
Humanity has gone through an endless shift in progression versus degradation. Small steps forward, and leaps backwards. In smaller cases more than the larger ones, it can be a long-lasting opposite.
And the two most dominant sides that inspire these shifts seem to have one thing in common: They know their reasons to believe that their side is right.
In matters of comfort and tastes in small things like media, dessert flavors, and sports teams, yes.
But certain topics deserve to be deal breakers.
Topics where lives are threatened and taken. Either by a collective, an individual, or by one’s choice to “opt-out” to not endure the pain any longer.
The global shift that has occurred in the last few days has either been inevitable, or sped up to create something that, in the near or far future, will make sure this does not happen again. How, why, and when, are matters that will be determined by the right people.
While the negative side has come out stronger than ever, the hurt yet hopeful masses have regrouped and said “enough.” They’ve drawn their lines in the sand to the point where glass is made.
Their boundaries have become stronger, while connecting much deeper with like-minded people to fight through the pain and/or numbness.
While news of repercussions has come out in small doses to those choosing a hate-filled path, for now it only changes who the next easily accessible target is. The calls for action against them have already begun, either in grassroots or invasive ways.
Or, to quote the late Biggie Smalls, “the ski mask way.”
Whatever these divides cause in the long run, it’s good to be on the side that has seen behind the curtain long enough to know how to sweep up its own mess, if only to avoid having the other’s messes weigh them into submission.
That’s what they want. And we will not have it.
–Kingston Priest
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End of Days: Election Thoughts
It has been quite a few months leading up to tomorrow.
Anything I say here won’t be enough to cover all of my feelings about.
It’s good, though.
Only because what I could say will only be aligned with what I’ve been writing about for years now. They would just have more focus on key negative traits aligned with tomorrow.
And given my track record on here, I feel more qualified to talk about the social threats and conflicts than the political ones.
Not saying that they aren’t two sides of the same coin, but there are others qualified to weave both together as well as I’ve come to doing for one side.
If anything can be taken from my page, choosing those that project maturity and accountability have been the most important thing for me. Not just in personal connections, but towards public figures.
No matter how tomorrow plays out, I won’t be the only one out here continuing to speak about what many deserve to hear, in spite of what others want us to stay quiet about.
Even with the reminder of that I should only worry about what I can control, I am bracing for impacts.
With all of this said, please be safe out there when voting tomorrow. If you already have, do what you need to do to decompress.
I casted mine two weekends ago, so I will be at work prepping for war while praying for peace. I’m wishing peace for many of us.
Kingston Priest
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The ABCs of being a POS: Finale [Z]
Zero Regrets (Edited 02/23/2025)
Everything that you’ve learned in this list takes talent to weave into a ball that you and other like-minded people can use to hit others with at your leisure.
It’s a twisted, malicious game, that only some realize they are players in.
But like the focus needed to keep the ball in play, it also takes having no regrets on how it damages your targets.
Unlike most actual sports, though, targets can fight back.
And they will with the same number of regrets that you have about what you’ve done or doing to them.
You might even call them a POS because they’re fighting fire with fire. Or better yet, other elements to snuff the flame you placed in them.
It’s one thing to satisfy the monster in you. It’s another to face the one you made in someone else. A kind that would never do to others what has been done to them.
You, however, may be free game.
If you feel that you’re ready to face them in every way you can, then you’re on your way to being an inspiring POS for years to come.
If you wish to walk differently, go back to the beginning. Then read it as someone who knows what needs to change in yourself. Not to nurse your ego, fuel defensive fire, or hide your bad intentions.
Read it as someone who doesn’t want this to hurt you because it’s about you.
Thank you for your time.
-Kingston Priest
This series is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If you wish to learn more about mental health, abusive behaviors, and support, please talk to your primary physician’s office, or a licensed professional.
For emergencies, please call 911, or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Update: “The ABC’s…”
(Updated 11/19/2024)
First, thank you to the many that have read this series.
It took a lot to put it together in the short time I have, and I’m grateful for the attention it has received to this point.
As this update, all entries will have hyperlinks on the bottom tying one to the others.
This way you can go back and forwards with ease to each part, as I have written separate entries in-between them.
Other plans are ahead for this series, but that’s all I’ll say, for now.
Until the next entry, thank you again for reading. Write to you, soon.
– Kingston Priest
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Us Again: Taking Time to Love Yourself in a Relationship
It takes a lot to grow into a relationship which can last without the gradual or sudden lack of frequent communication.
No matter how physically close or distant the partners are, they can be tested through the act of breaks to learn how to be with themselves.
Either partner can begin to face emotions that require them to be with themselves long enough to make grand discoveries that would not have been possible with their partner actively present and/or available. Especially on the phone or texting.
Of course, insecurities and past traumas, combined with the wrong people in their ear(s), can convince them that the silence can be a sign of quietly quitting the connection, or even infidelity. Sometimes both.
But if your mutual love has stood one test after another related to moments like this, to the point where the only person they would leave their partner for is themselves, those fears are the last thing to entertain.
So, remain patient.
Give both you and your partner grace in this period of individual growth. You are both in your right to miss what you do together. If meant to be, those moments can return with a greater strength than either of you could have ever imagined.
There is no comfort in accelerating its ending just to fill temporary pleasures.
Your future together depends on that.
– Kingston Priest
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